Hi,
I am really ashamed and angry at myself - Mr Freya my mature male T. vagans has been missing for a week now. I am usually so careful when feeding but I have been in such a bad way mentally recently, really low, struggling with my housing situation, damp, repairs, my relationships falling apart. I don't think I would have had the strength to continue with life if it wasn't for my pets, and now I'm letting my pets down.
When I was feeding the Ts last Sunday I forgot to put Mr Freya's lid back on I think it was about an hour later that I went back in and realised. At that point I sealed under the door with a draught excluder, so I hope he didn't leave the room under the door, although it's possible. I have 2 cats so I am relieved at least that it wasn't an old world T; they could harm Mr Freya and I feel so bad but at least it isn't both him and my cats in danger.
My T. room looks like a hoarders room though, so much stuff from emptying damp cupboards in the rest of the house - the T room being the warmest with no mould meant I shoved everything in there. So the amount of hiding places for a spider is massive. I carefully emptied every single cupboard, bag, box etc in the room, emptied my bookcase to look behind and under there and can't find him anywhere. It is a terrace house and there are quite a few holes I can see so I am scared he has got next door. I am scared to tell next door due to so many people being scared of spiders - they are new neighbors so it's hard to know whether it would be better to tell them or not. I am scared they could hurt him but also scared they could report me to my landlord I am already having problems with (I do have permission to keep the tarantulas and cats but letting tarantulas lose may well be classed as anti-social behavior).
I have put water bowls out around the room in the hope that if he is still here he may find them to drink.
I wondered if anyone has any advice and if anyone else has previously lost a mature male/what the outcome was?
I am really ashamed and angry at myself - Mr Freya my mature male T. vagans has been missing for a week now. I am usually so careful when feeding but I have been in such a bad way mentally recently, really low, struggling with my housing situation, damp, repairs, my relationships falling apart. I don't think I would have had the strength to continue with life if it wasn't for my pets, and now I'm letting my pets down.
When I was feeding the Ts last Sunday I forgot to put Mr Freya's lid back on I think it was about an hour later that I went back in and realised. At that point I sealed under the door with a draught excluder, so I hope he didn't leave the room under the door, although it's possible. I have 2 cats so I am relieved at least that it wasn't an old world T; they could harm Mr Freya and I feel so bad but at least it isn't both him and my cats in danger.
My T. room looks like a hoarders room though, so much stuff from emptying damp cupboards in the rest of the house - the T room being the warmest with no mould meant I shoved everything in there. So the amount of hiding places for a spider is massive. I carefully emptied every single cupboard, bag, box etc in the room, emptied my bookcase to look behind and under there and can't find him anywhere. It is a terrace house and there are quite a few holes I can see so I am scared he has got next door. I am scared to tell next door due to so many people being scared of spiders - they are new neighbors so it's hard to know whether it would be better to tell them or not. I am scared they could hurt him but also scared they could report me to my landlord I am already having problems with (I do have permission to keep the tarantulas and cats but letting tarantulas lose may well be classed as anti-social behavior).
I have put water bowls out around the room in the hope that if he is still here he may find them to drink.
I wondered if anyone has any advice and if anyone else has previously lost a mature male/what the outcome was?