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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Thistles" data-source="post: 56250" data-attributes="member: 3949">Yep, definitely friendlier. Nothing "blatantly rude, derogatory or insulting" about that post at all. What do you make of the crossovers? Do you just sort of take a balance? Spiderdad61 and I are on both, so we don't count? Just wondering how you calculate that "the people here are 100 times better" than AB.I'm sorry that you think I'm talking down to people. That is not my intention. I just try to be fair and call things as I see them. I'm not bothered by bluntness, so sometimes I upset people when I neglect to sugar-coat or I don't just take their side regardless. I see fault on both sides here, so I'm not going to join your anti-AB crusade. Sorry to disappoint you. There are good things and bad things about both forums. That's why I have joined both.OP asked for advice. How does one give advice without coming across as a "mentor?" What in particular about my response offended you? How should I have worded it? I'm genuinely curious. People are more open to advice when it is presented in a welcome way, so if I am putting you (or OP) off by my delivery, I would like to be able to improve.Feel free to search my post history on AB. It's far more extensive. Tell me if I come across as unhelpful and elitist. I can think of two recent posts of mine that might meet your criteria, but I think on the balance I'm restrained. You can use OP's thread over there, if you'd like. I didn't browbeat him.I am entitled to my opinion, whether you want to hear it or not. OP started this thread just fine - talking about his new acquisitions and excitement. He then devoted an entire post, much longer than his original, to complaining about his treatment on AB. You and a few others jumped on that immediately, not much whipping up required, and this whole thread (much like the guidelines post at the head of this forum) quickly degenerated into bashing another forum. If you don't like it, don't post there. Simple. I imagine there are plenty of users here who would rather not hear constant tirades against a place they don't even use. You're entitled to your opinion, but this fixation seems pretty pathetic to me.Would you say that your post is "talking down" to me or just trying to get a rise?</blockquote>

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